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Happy 14th Birthday Connor

July 3, 2012

It doesn’t seem possible that it’s been 14 years.

Connor – summer 2010

Flagstaff Arizona, so much was different. Helen and I became friends and co-workers due to his birth. We had each other’s back through the laughter and the tears and the unbelievable. As Connor grew there was many times that she’d say we may have messed up a lot but did right with him early on.

I never imagined the way things would turn out. Never imagined that 14 years later she’d be gone, I’d be living in Alabama and Connor would not only be here but would be an active part of things we’d talked about. Maybe someday we’ll get to that “place” that she left before arrival.

It’s bittersweet, these milestones. He’s grown into a young man that has a natural core but needs direction. Sometimes that’s hard to do – that combination of encouragement and pulling him back. I suppose if it were easy there’d be fewer need for jails.

There are times he gets tired of chores. Of us being picky to fill the waters and do tasks thoroughly and completely. He wants to fast forward to joining the Marines, but is not prepared for what that entails. He’s wanted that for several years – Helen was less than thrilled with the aspiration but swore to support it.

On the way to the airport – July 2010

Life lessons are hard…and he’s had many in his 14 years. He’s had to grow up more than many due to how things have happened. Trying to keep him a teen a little longer and balancing responsibility with teaching is a challenge under the best of circumstances.

Even when he gets mad and says it’s not fair he’s grounded I know she’s looking down and incredibly proud of him. He’s polite (most of the time!) and tries to be helpful. He’s a big part of things here, and although we don’t have much have realized our dream isn’t completely the same as him. He misses Arizona – and how much of that is typical homesickness and how much is more we don’t know. We do know that we purchased 10 acres in Arizona that will be his one day – to use or sell or whatever he wants to do with it.Roots and wings.

And he’ll continue to have a part in working towards Kentucky. Who knows – someday we may have a SunnyBankFarm East and Western divisions!

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